I did it! I actually did it! I'm happy! Seriously. I'm not kidding! This is a big deal! If you've read my "About Me" page on this website, then you know that being happy has not been easy for me. I don't know why. I wish I could tell you why, but I don't know why. I have to be honest with you, it wasn't easy. There were a lot of good days and a lot of bad days. And a couple of really bad days. But I stuck with it, I refused to give up, and I did it! And now I can't believe how easy it is!
So do you want to hear the big secret behind being happy? You'll be surprised how simple it is. The quote above has a lot to do with it. Happiness, I have found, is all in your head. It's all about what you're thinking about at any give moment. And you know the cool thing about that? We have total control over our thoughts. People may try to persuade us to think a certain way and they may even convince us to think a certain way, but ultimately, we have complete and total control over our thoughts. We get to decide what we think and we get to decide what we believe. One of my favorite quotes from Abraham-Hicks is "A belief is just a thought that you think over and over and over." It's how all of our beliefs were formed. When you were younger, your parents had a big part in helping you to form your beliefs. The things that they thought were really important they probably repeated to you over and over and over and it became a belief. "Brush your teeth or they'll fall out." "Drink your milk, it will make you strong." "An apple a day keeps the doctor away." As we got older, we started forming our own beliefs through our own experiences. Unfortunately, not all of them were beneficial. "I'm shy." "I'm not very smart ." "I'm terrible at sports." The more we repeat these things to ourselves, the more we believe them. Luckily, we can reprogram our negative beliefs the same way we programmed them in the first place and it's just as easy to do. Drop the negative self-talk and start telling yourself what you WANT to believe. Yes, I said what you WANT to believe. Remember, we get to choose our own thoughts. And just because you've thought something over and over and over doesn't necessarily make it true. You've just convinced yourself that it's true. You can change what you believe using the same method. Start repeating what you want to believe. Yes, it will probably feel silly at first but it will get easier. When that little voice in your head starts to argue with you about what you want to believe, just tell it to shut up. That's your old belief fighting to stay alive. It's been around for a long time so you might have to wrestle it to the ground to shut it up but you can do it. The best thing to do is just ignore it and keep telling yourself what you want to believe. If it's too hard and that voice keeps trying to keep the old belief alive, take a break for a bit. Think about something else . . . something that makes you HAPPY. Don't dwell on the negative stuff. That's not getting you anywhere! That's moving your momentum in the wrong direction. Think about something happy that makes you smile. Or listen to your favorite song. Or go for a walk in the sunshine. Or give your kids a hug. Whatever it is that makes you feel good. Then when you're feeling better, try working on reprogramming those negative beliefs again. Don't give up. It will get easier. And it will be worth it. I promise.
Are you unhappy? Do you wish you could be happier? I can help! Go to the Happiness Coaching page on my website to schedule some time to talk to me about how you can be happier. I look forward to talking to you! ~ Mary Jane
Mary Jane Fitch
Making the world a happier place one person at a time!